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I was told as a child that you speak when spoken to.So I was closed mouth for a long time, I found my voice and now I can't STFU.

Thursday, July 1, 2010

Measuring Standards

Often we compare our worth to that of others, our material possessions to that of our friends or family, and our life paths to those around us. The only thing that all these comparisons leads to is jealousy, resentment, regrets and sorrows. We each chose paths for our own reasons and must live with the choices however distasteful they may be. There are mothers that wonder what would their life be without their children, single women that wonder if 'he would've married them instead of the woman he met after her', and men that wonder 'what if I never had gotten her pregnant?'. While a single thought may be innocent enough, there's people who dwell on these thoughts and let it affect them. These thoughts breed jealousy and hate among friends and family because some people don't know how to accept what they have and be satisfied. If you cannot shop at the same stores as another because you didn't go to school long enough to bring in a decent paycheck, hating on someone who can is not going to elevate your situation. In fact it makes it worst because instead of concentrating on a way to get yourself to a better position, you're giving too much of your attention to an unnecessary foci. While there may be things you cannot take back like children, it is always possible to go back to school and get a degree especially when you run into your old friend and she tells you she finished college on time, she has a good job, she gets to do activities that you don't think of on daily basis, you inspect her clothing, they're better than yours, she invites you out but you decline because you don't have a babysitter or because your funds are low, and a feeling of discontent begins to rise, talk it down. That is NOT YOUR LIFE its hers and while she may seem happy on the surface behind every close door there's grief. Find contentment in your life because it's the only one you're living and whatever you don't like you can change, that is your responsibility to yourself.